How You Know When Someone Is The One

As engagement season begins, one question we get asked a lot is how we knew we were “the one” for the other. We are by no means experts in this area, but there are a few things that we know for sure about the one you’re meant to spend all your days with:

There’s no chaos. Can you think back on a time when God brought utter and total chaos to your life? Probably not because we serve a God of order and that order extends to our relationships. Of course there will be arguments over little things and growing pains as you get to know each other, but one sign that this person may not be the one God called to be your life partner is if you feel a lack of peace about spending your life with the person. That internal unrest may be God whispering to you to let that person go. Listen to your gut. Don’t make God yell at you because it’s going to suck.

You’re friends in every sense of the word. Kevin and I were friends long before we got married and he is my very best friend in the whole world. I love the person that he is and he loves who I am. Beyond being my husband, that dude is my homie. I love spending time with Kevin all the time, and that’s a good thing because when you’re married, your spouse is in your face constantly. We can be our true, and sometimes annoying, selves with each other without fear. Ask yourself if you like who the person is at all times, in happiness and in sadness. If you do, this is a good sign.

You want this person to be the mother or father of your child. I have no doubt in my mind that Kevin will be a wonderful father to our children, should we decide to have them. I love the idea that he will pass some of his amazing qualities to our child. Again, I have no fear in this and with “the one,” you won’t have any fear either.

Preferences versus deal breakers. Take some time to consider this: Are the things that annoy or concern you about your girlfriend or boyfriend based on your personal preferences or are they truly things that will have you questioning your decision to stay years down the road? Kevin seems to always leave the gas tank on dang near ‘E’ every time. Does it annoy me? Heck yes, it does. Will it cause serious damage to our relationship? Absolutely not (Unless I get stranded somewhere as a result. Then we’ll have some problems!). Examine situations in your current relationship to identify preferences versus deal breakers. If they’re deal breakers then...well...no deal.

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